Tuesday, May 11, 2010

How To Help Your Child With Autism and Special Needs To Grow, Develop & Become an Independent Adult

Independence is one of the greatest gifts we can give our children. Although living alone may not be an option for every child, helping your child to live the best life possible is every parent's dream. Independence comes in all shapes and sizes. Our children are transitioning all the time. We may not notice our children's abilities unless we stay focused on the small, tiny things our children can do.

How can you help your child to grow and develop, if you are not growing and changing yourself? As parents, we lead the way, and we hold the key to our children's future. When we can live in the moment, and look from a more positive perspective, it will help us to not only cope as parents but we will become more conscious evolved human beings in the process. The healthier we are emotionally, the more we have to give. The better we feel about ourselves, the more we can help our children. When we are parenting this way, the entire family wins.

What to do:

1. Try not to compare your children with others.
2. Praise them for what they can do.
3. Focus on seeing the positive, instead of the negative.
4. Find ways to take time out for yourself, and bring laughter and joy into your life.
5. As parents, we set the tone within the family unit.
6. We must get help, assistance, and support from people who care and understand our children.
7. We do not need to do this alone.

There are people who truly want to help. Welcome them in, and allow them to assist and support you. The better you take care of yourself, the more you have to give, and help your children reach their full potential. We are in this together and must be on the same team in order to succeed.

Listed below are some very important tools and lessons I learned while helping my son become independent:

1. Do not listen to others when they say your child cannot do something.
2. Always trust your instincts and trust your heart.
3. Be respectful, especially when you think it will not matter.
4. Being different can be beautiful.
5. Encouragement builds self-esteem.
6. Always listen to the silence in between the words.
7. Having and giving support helps to soothe the soul.
8. Taking care of yourself first gives you fuel to carry on.
9. Gratitude is a powerful tonic.
10. Hope and believing that anything is possible will take you through any storm.
11. Kindness is not a luxury, it is a necessity.
12. Never giving up is key.
13. ACCEPTANCE is the answer!

Amalia Starr is a Mother, Autism Motivational Speaker, Family Consultant and Author of Raising Brandon. Starr's youngest son, Brandon, is thirty-seven years old. He has a form of autism called Asperger's, plus untreatable epilepsy, and severe learning disorders. The professionals who worked with Brandon said he would never be able to live alone. They were wrong. Brandon has been living on his own for more than twelve years, enjoying his independence.

There is HOPE! For more information on how to help your child with special needs reach his or her full potential please visit: http://www.AmaliaStarrSpeakerAutism.com, and accept Starr's offer of a free phone consultation. Also, check out Starr's book, Raising Brandon and learn invaluable information, tips, solutions and everyday strategies to help your children with autism and special needs reach their highest level of independence. It is never too early or too late to get help!

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